If You Wanna Be My Lover

Hot Take: Friendships in your 30s should be quality over quantity.

As we move through our 30s, friendships start to look different. The spontaneous hangouts get fewer, the group chats get quieter, and suddenly “catching up soon” turns into “maybe next month.” In this episode, Roland and Hannah unpack what it really means to have quality friendships in adulthood — and why that phrase might be more complicated than we think.

They explore how our energy, priorities, and sense of connection shift as we grow, and how that impacts the way we show up for one another. What happens when a friendship no longer fits? How do we navigate the grief of drifting apart while making space for new, more aligned connections? And what if it’s not really about choosing between quality or quantity — but about finding what’s fulfilling and sustainable for you?

Through humor, honesty, and a few hard truths, this episode dives into the evolving meaning of friendship, the necessity of boundaries, and the power of building community that actually feels like home.

Because friendship in your 30s isn’t about how many people you have — it’s about who helps you feel seen, supported, and safe to grow.