You Seem Fine Podcast

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Podcast by Hannah Shahabi and Roland Scheppske

You Seem Fine Podcast

Hannah Shahabi, LPC and Roland Scheppske, LPC are two millennial therapists living in Virginia. Hannah and Roland have often found themselves having lengthy conversations with one another and developing hot takes about different therapy topics. It was in these discussions that the two of them realized a lot of ways that they mentally envisioned these aspects, were through the specific lens of a millennial (i.e. those born between the years of 1981-1996). With the fun spin these life experiences give to their hot takes, both Hannah and Roland decided that being able to express these thoughts and appeal to others, who often find themselves in a “I’m fine, this is fine” mentality, would not only be fun, but also beneficial. Specifically, for listeners to be inspired to seek out and achieve betterment in their own therapy journey. The You Seem Fine podcast provides an inside look on how Hannah and Roland conduct therapy around that topic. as well as how they handle that personally in a segment called “Behind the Couch and Under the Cushion”. As a fun bonus, Hannah and Roland lean into their Swiftie side by sharing their Taylor Swift lyric of the week at the start of each episode during the “I Don’t Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift” segment. *THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICENSED PROFESSIONAL.*

Latest episodes

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18 April 2025

S2 E2 Get in Loser! We're High Functioning

00:00- Opening 00:12- Legal Discloser 00:41- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:53- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:08- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift 01:19- Roland's Swiftie Song 01:36- Roland's Explanation 04:40- Hannah's Swiftie Song 07:11- Hannah's Explanation 10:57- Hot Take Intro 11:02- High Functioning Anxiety 11:12- Lily's Introduction! 12:38- Lily's Background 13:09- Weird cut???? 13:10- Lily's Hot Take 13:41- No one coined High Functioning?! 14:00- Isolation vs. Taking it Serious 14:55- Roland's Hot Take 15:58- Hannah's Hot Take 16:51- Reasons to "be" High Functioning 17:40- Autism Relation 18:44- Mental Health vs. Mental Health 18:56- Question to Lily 19:35- Corporate America~ 19:50- Symptoms of High Functioning Anxiety 20:53- Noticing the Symptoms 21:16- Charges of Anxiety 23:13- High Functioning is Managing 24:00- Lily's Ability to Recognize 25:42- Roland Calls Out Lily 26:23- Lily Got Caught! 26:39- Weird cut (when the video cut off w/ Lily) 26:57- Prioritization & Burnout 27:39- High Functioning Benefit 28:37- High Functioning Praise 29:48- Physical Anxiety Symptoms 31:00- Question #2 to Lily 31:48- Roland's Disdain 32:00- Double Edged Sword 33:30- Anxiety, Oh Crap... 34:32- Lily's Anxiety Hack 35:30- Question #3 to Lily 36:04- Lily Needs a PUSH 36:26- Unconditional Positive Regard 38:49- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 38:57- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 41:51- See One, Do One, Teach One 43:36- Behind the Couch (Roland) 44:56- Body Scans; Where do you carry anxiety? 46:24- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 47:55- Anxiety & Body/Immune Disease 50:50- Anxiety Spiral; Silence of the Lambs 54:30- Under the Cushion (Roland) 55:15- High Functioning equals smart? Good at anxiety?? 56:26- Pauses are everything 59:30- Outro

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04 April 2025

It's F.I.N.E.

00:00- Opening 00:17- Legal Disclosure 00:46- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:58- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:12- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift 01:43- Roland's Swiftie Song 02:10- Roland's Explanation 03:29- Hannah's Swiftie Song 03:49- Hannah's Explanation 04:56- Hot Take Intro 05:03- What is Fine? 05:25- Definitions of Fine 06:20- Freaked Out, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional 07:51- Societal Norms Again~ 08:54- Hannah's Definition of Fine 10:10- Fine is Settling 11:16- Why quantify fine? 11:52- Radical Acceptance & DBT 12:24- How to get others to see "Fine?" 12:44- Body Work 13:18- Stereotypes & Tropes 14:15- Body Tells All 14:45- Fine = Avoidance 15:24- Conflict Resolution 17:25- Fine = Good ? 18:56- Perpetuating Fine 20:29- Can we redefine, fine? 20:59- Go back to the original 23:13- Conditioned to be good 23:32- Doing vs being 24:26- PAUSE- World has been saved 25:12- When is fine useful? 25:56- In the Interim 28:18- Be your best Steven Tyler 29:33- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 29:40- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 30:29- Emotion Work & Validation 31:00- Behind the Couch (Roland) 32:00- Strive to Thrive 33:20- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 34:25- Authenticity in Session 35:38- Genuine Fine vs Not 37:05- Under the Cushion (Roland) 38:17- Replacing Fine- Being Amenable 40:08- Fusing Fair & Fine together 40:38- Outro

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28 March 2025

Don't You Know That You're Toxic

During this week's episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland discuss the nuance of Toxic Positivity. The idea of toxicity or when something is toxic is when it is poisonous or harmful. Positivity is described as the practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude. The discussion touches on societal implications and expectations around positivity as well as how awareness is extremely important to understand the aforementioned nuance. Moreso, Hannah and Roland note the necessity of emotional intelligence and maturity in realizing when certain people or ideologies are no longer helpful or beneficial. I.e. Toxic.

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14 March 2025

Baa Baa Black Sheep

During this week’s episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland elaborate on the Black Sheep role within the family system. The black sheep is an idiom that describes a member of a group, who is different from the rest, especially a family member who does not fit in. Hannah and Roland discuss how applying aspects of IFS (Internal Family Systems) as well as techniques from other practices can be used to help empower the Black Sheep into being a Cycle Breaker. A cycle breaker is somebody who sees an unhealthy cycle of behavior in their family of origin and intentionally works to break that cycle. Within this transformation, the parts that help to manage that change such as the Inner Child, Manager, Firefighter, etc., are defined and outlined.

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28 February 2025

That Girl

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland go over the "That Girl" phenomenon and the different takes on it. Generally speaking, That Girl refers to a wellness archetype that has become popular on social media. It represents women or people who prioritize self-improvement, wellness, and mindfulness. In this episode, Hannah and Roland discuss the ups and downs of this process and how it can be portrayed as too much/unrealistic as well as a glimpse into what it would be like to do it in a healthy way.

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14 February 2025

F^©k, Marry, K!ll

During this episode of You Seem Fine, Hannah and Roland discuss the overlap between acting Selfish, participating in Self Care, and being Self Indulgent. As a fun twist on the overlap, Hannah and Roland play a game of F@ck, Marry, Kill with the three aspects of self and discuss how they came to that conclusion for themselves. Selfish is described as lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. Self Care is defined as the process of establishing behaviors to ensure holistic well-being of oneself, to promote health, and actively manage illness when it occurs. Lastly, self indulgence refers to the excessive or unrestrained gratification of one's own appetites, desires, or whims.

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