You Seem Fine Podcast

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Podcast by Hannah Shahabi and Roland Scheppske

You Seem Fine Podcast

Hannah Shahabi, LPC and Roland Scheppske, LPC are two millennial therapists living in Virginia. Hannah and Roland have often found themselves having lengthy conversations with one another and developing hot takes about different therapy topics. It was in these discussions that the two of them realized a lot of ways that they mentally envisioned these aspects, were through the specific lens of a millennial (i.e. those born between the years of 1981-1996). With the fun spin these life experiences give to their hot takes, both Hannah and Roland decided that being able to express these thoughts and appeal to others, who often find themselves in a “I’m fine, this is fine” mentality, would not only be fun, but also beneficial. Specifically, for listeners to be inspired to seek out and achieve betterment in their own therapy journey. The You Seem Fine podcast provides an inside look on how Hannah and Roland conduct therapy around that topic. as well as how they handle that personally in a segment called “Behind the Couch and Under the Cushion”. As a fun bonus, Hannah and Roland lean into their Swiftie side by sharing their Taylor Swift lyric of the week at the start of each episode during the “I Don’t Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift” segment. *THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICENSED PROFESSIONAL.*

Latest episodes

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31 October 2025

I've Got a Blank Slate, baby, and I'll Write Your Name

Hot Take: Self-disclosure is necessary and therapeutically beneficial in the therapy room. This week, Roland and Hannah are joined by psychologist Dr. Chloe Goldbach for a candid conversation on one of the most debated topics in the therapy world: therapist self-disclosure. Should clinicians be a “blank slate”? Or does sharing parts of ourselves actually make the therapeutic relationship stronger? Together, they explore how self-disclosure can foster trust, model vulnerability, and create more authentic connections — especially in communities where shared experience matters. From challenging the rigid “never self-disclose” lessons taught in grad school to unpacking how culture, identity, and power shape disclosure, this conversation blends clinical insight with real-world nuance. Dr. Goldbach brings a feminist therapy lens to the table, emphasizing how therapist humanity isn’t a flaw — it’s a strength. Whether you’re a clinician rethinking your stance or someone curious about what happens behind the therapy room door, this episode invites you to consider how showing up as yourself can be a radical act of care. https://lgbtcounselingdmv.com/dr-chlo%C3%AB-goldbach%2C-ph-d https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/chloe-goldbach-arlington-va/1317255 https://www.youtube.com/c/TheChloeConnection (Also on IG!) https://www.amazon.com/Counseling-Gender-Expansive-World-Resources-Therapeutic-ebook/dp/B0BJ172NDN

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17 October 2025

If You Wanna Be My Lover

00:00- Opening 00:11- Legal Disclosure 00:42- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:53- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:08- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift 01:25- Roland's Swiftie Song 01:47- Roland's Explanation 02:22- Hannah's Swiftie Song 02:59- Hannah's Explanation 05:37- Hot Take Intro 05:46- Friendships! 06:20- Friendships in your 30s 07:15- Quality Over Quantity 08:21- Adulting & Changes 09:20- Shifting Priorities 10:11- No Blueprint 11:22- Convenience of Friendships in 20s 12:50- Friendship Breakups are hard 13:05- Quality is: Depth, meaning making, growing together 14:25- Effort in Quality Friendships are Two-Sided 15:14- Quantity- As Many Friends As Possible 15:44- Going Out, Study, Inner Circle, Etc. 17:10- Risk of Not Going to Specific Friends 17:51- Friend Expectations 19:16- Emotional Maturity in Friendships 21:26- Commitment Despite Different Phases 24:39- Needs of the Friendship 27:38- Personal Expectations 29:51- Bias on Quality 30:19- What do you have & what do you want? 33:08- What brings you joy, happiness, or gratification? 34:10- Create a Friendship with Yourself 34:15- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 34:56- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 35:55- Meaning Making work 37:27- Pivoting from Past to Present & Discovery 38:36- Modeling Boundaries 39:24- Emotional Intimacy 41:50- Behind the Couch (Roland) 42:13- Sarcasm to Challenge Selfishness 43:04- CBT to Open the Door 43:34- Creating Disruption w/ Narrative 44:14- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 44:39- Quantity is Different Needs 45:03- Quality is Holding Space 46:07- So Many Friends can be Beautiful 47:21- Setting Fair Expectations 48:06- Friendships ARE Give & Take 49:30- Under the Cushion (Roland) 49:51- Not Following Own Expectations 50:30- In Passing Friendships 51:28- How to show up and be shown up for 52:15- Quantity Friend to Quality Friend 52:57- Outro

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08 August 2025

Chef's Kiss

The Season Finale is here! This episode we explore perfectionism and the sneaky ways it shows up in our lives. Perfectionism is a personality trait characterized by a relentless pursuit of flawlessness and high standards. It can manifest as self-motivation and drive to achieve success, but often leads to anxiety & low self-worth when standards aren't met. Time to get to the bottom of the "good enough's" and kick obligation to curb 'cause imperfect is the new perfect.

00:00- Opening

00:13- Legal Disclosure

00:41- Personal Intro (Hannah)

00:53- Personal Intro (Roland)

01:08- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift

01:19- Roland's Swiftie Song

01:53- Roland's Explanation

02:33- Stay true to yourself!

02:41- Hannah's Swiftie Song

03:09- Hannah's Explanation

03:25- Maladaptive Daydreaming

05:03- Hot Take Intro

05:10- Perfectionism!

05:41- Definition of Perfectionism

05:54- 3 Kinds of Perfectionism

06:10- Self Oriented/Socially Prescribed/Other Oriented

07:50- Nuance is helpful to differentiate

08:17- Inability to release control

08:56- Hannah's Hot Take

09:30- Image we want, we project on others

10:26- Society Gives Us Sense of Perfection

11:45- Perfectionism is mix of Nature & Nurture

12:38- What of the 3 Kind's Is Hannah's Hot Take?

12:51- Socially Prescribed

14:14- Roland's Hot Take

15:45- Never-ending Feedback Loop

16:02- Perfectionism Breeds Failure

17:02- Imperfect is learning

18:38- The HOW is important

19:30- Perfectionism Erodes Society

20:50- Checking & Re-Checking

21:08- Chronic Procrastination

22:40- Research Attacks the Pod

23:18- Swap Perfect for Done

23:59- Good Enough Reps

26:07- Schedule Rest

27:06- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion

27:15- Behind the Couch (Roland)

27:34- Dishes as a Good Enough Rep

29:29- Goal of an Aha! Moment

29:45- Using Obligation/Contract Verbiage to Challenge

31:04- Take Back Control

32:13- Behind the Couch (Hannah)

32:25- Overwhelmed Achiever Overlap

32:55- Empowerment & Reinvention

34:21- Self-Imposed High

35:04- Inner Child Work

35:18- CBT

37:06- Safe with Emotions

38:35- Under the Cushion (Roland)

38:45- Grades Were Important (GT/AP Kid)

40:24- Challenged Perfectionism

42:07- Would Not Classify Perfectionism Out loud

42:50- We're Frenemies!

42:55- Under the Cushion (Hannah)

43:36- Grew Up Thinking of Failure

43:58- Perfectionism & Imposter Syndrome

44:33- Other Oriented

46:08- Unfairness of Expectations

48:18- Not Assigning the Emotional Piece

50:28- Other Oriented Feels Helpless

50:38- Outro

*THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICSENED PROFESSIONAL*

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25 July 2025

Mirror Mirror on the Wall

This Episode is certainly the fairest of them all! Hannah and Roland sit down to discuss Narcissism. Narcissism is commonly referred to as a personality trait characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And, surprise! Hannah and Roland have the same Hot Take! Whether it's identifying the gaslighting, demystifying the buzzwords, or beating a tiktoker over the head with the DSM, put down the poison apple and pay attention. Call it vain, maybe even call it arrogant, but we KNOW you'll want to hear this.

00:00- Opening

00:17- Legal Disclosure

00:47- Personal Intro (Hannah)

00:58- Personal Intro (Roland)

01:13- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift

01:23- Roland's Swiftie Song

01:37- Roland's Explanation

02:45- Verbiage is Important; no wasted time

04:28- Compartmentalization

04:44- Hannah's Swiftie Song

05:32- Hannah's Explanation

06:08- Working through monotony

07:13- Hopeful in the Mud

07:16- Hot Take Intro

07:23- Narcissism

07:31- Trigger Warning

08:35- Narcissist Label Can Only Be Used by Mental Health Professional

10:00- Hannah & Roland Have the same Hot Take!

10:36- No Normalizing Narcissism

12:21- Narcissism is not a giant spectrum

12:54- Narcissistic Personality Disorder/DSM Diagnosis

14:13- Frequency is Important to Notice

15:01- Selfishness/Arrogance is Conflated to Narcissism

15:45- Grandiosity is the keyword

16:40- Narcissism Buzzwords

17:54- Maladaptive, not just attention seeking

19:29- Need to be seen vs. Who Should See Me?

20:51- Manipulation

21:05- Gaslighting

23:29- Gaslighting is always pointed

24:57- Psychological Dominance

26:38- Again, NPD Only Be Used By Mental Health Professionals!

27:26- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion

27:31- Behind the Couch (Hannah)

28:30- Psychoeducation Soapbox; Add Tendencies After

30:03- Compassion & Empathy

31:05- Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse

32:45- Behind the Couch (Roland)

33:15- Comorbidities & Differentials

34:04- Covert NPD or BPD?!

35:18- Therapy Wise- Confrontation is good

37:24- Under the Cushion (Hannah)

38:01- Gray Rocking

39:57- Better to Regulate Self than Fuel Fire

40:13- Under the Cushion (Roland)

40:26- Quiet Undertaking

41:24- Remove Self Before Falling Prey

42:40- Code Speech

43:35- Duty to Report Only Caveat

43:51- Outro

**This podcast does not serve as Mental Health Therapy with a Licensed Professional. This podcast is for educational purposes only. If topics from the podcast resonate with you, we recommend consulting a mental health provider for tailored support.

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11 July 2025

A Whole New World

Join Hannah and Roland—along with special guest Megan Anderson—as they explore the world and uncover the mental health benefits of travel. From reigniting creativity to finding your environmental reset, discover how immersion sparks personal growth. This journey is packed with insights. Buckle up—new horizons await, and you won’t want to miss it.

00:00- Opening

00:14- Legal Disclosure

00:43- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift

00:53- Roland's Swiftie Song

01:27- Roland's Explanation

03:14- Hannah's Swiftie Song

03:35- Hannah's Explanation

07:10- Uh-oh, Reality Therapy Roland Showed Up

10:08- Hot Take Intro

10:15- Travel & Mental Health!

10:28- Guest Megan Anderson Speaks!

11:13- Travel is Self Care & Prevents Burnout

12:19- 45 COUNTRIES?! 5 CONTINENTS?!

16:18- Megan's Hot Take

16:55- Travel is a Source to Reignite Creativity

18:45- Travel is a Step Back & Peace

20:08- Roland's Hot Take

20:45- Environmental Reset is Important to Re-Center

22:44- Megan's Travel Story

23:43- Megan's Travel Quote

25:45- Travel Became Growth

25:58- Hannah's Hot Take

28:40- Being Immersed is Key

29:35- Uncomfortable with the Comfortable

30:25- Similarly on Smaller Scales is ALSO important

33:21- Being Present & Safe

36:15- Intention is the Anchor

40:20- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion

40:28- Behind the Couch (Roland)

42:33- Ask Where Client's Have Always Wanted to Go?

43:33- Always Ask Within Means

44:19- Behind the Couch (Hannah)

45:19- Discuss skills alongside travel stories

47:18- Values & Problem Solving & Curiosity

49:45- Under the Cushion (Roland)

50:28- First Vacation Ever? 17 yrs old!

52:08- True Experience of Travel (Mind Blowing)

53:06- Creative Reset & Gob smacked Feeling

53:51- Under the Cushion (Hannah)

54:00- 2 years old was first flight~

54:30- Mystery Rides!

56:29- Spring Breaks All Over

58:44- Broaden Tools through other cultures

01:01:47- Outro

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27 June 2025

It's Not A Phase, Mom!

I swear he's all panic, and definitely no disco. Get your straighteners, cheap CVS black hair dye, and be ready for Warped Tour. Roland Scheppske is bringing the heat this week on You Seem Fine Podcast with his turn in the hot seat. You may need to flip your bangs some or let out a scream while Roland talks about grief in day-to-day life, or the idea of a more holistic approach to mental health that he dubs as full body. In fact, be ready for a full rant on what this would look like if all medical, mental, and health professions just shared a little more knowledge with one another.

00:00- Opening

00:18- Legal Disclosure

00:47- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift

00:58- Hannah's Swiftie Song

01:20- Hannah's Explanation

03:35- Roland's Swiftie Song

03:57- Roland's Explanation

05:50- Hot Seat Intro

06:12- What's New?!

06:28- First Acceptance Speech!

07:11- New Weekly Blog!

08:00- Practice Update

09:20- Counselor, how? When?

09:45- PTSD Veterans

10:55- Art School instead?!

12:12- Hannah & Roland have history~

14:15- Hardest thing learned as a therapist

17:20- Comradery in Dual Relationships w/ Boundaries

19:45- Boundaries & Ethics

22:00- No Compromise; Be open & talk

23:00- Roland as a Client

24:10- Nurture can be Damaging

25:35- Vulnerability

29:00- Hot Take #1

29:28- Grief is any loss

30:12- Grief is Complex

32:45- Small Griefs are Impactful

35:40- Acknowledgement & Acceptance

37:35- Hot Take #2

39:00- Full Body Experience

39:40- Mainstream & Cross Specialties

42:00- Herbalism, Massage, Acupuncture

44:10- Limited Knowledge

48:15- Medical Community & Resources

49:12- Changes in School Curriculum

53:26- Changes in best practice

53:50- INNER CHILD?! HANNAH WHY!?

55:39- The Body here in the present is most important

58:38- Outro

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