
Podcast by Hannah Shahabi and Roland Scheppske
Podcast by Hannah Shahabi and Roland Scheppske
08 August 2025
The Season Finale is here! This episode we explore perfectionism and the sneaky ways it shows up in our lives. Perfectionism is a personality trait characterized by a relentless pursuit of flawlessness and high standards. It can manifest as self-motivation and drive to achieve success, but often leads to anxiety & low self-worth when standards aren't met. Time to get to the bottom of the "good enough's" and kick obligation to curb 'cause imperfect is the new perfect.
00:00- Opening
00:13- Legal Disclosure
00:41- Personal Intro (Hannah)
00:53- Personal Intro (Roland)
01:08- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift
01:19- Roland's Swiftie Song
01:53- Roland's Explanation
02:33- Stay true to yourself!
02:41- Hannah's Swiftie Song
03:09- Hannah's Explanation
03:25- Maladaptive Daydreaming
05:03- Hot Take Intro
05:10- Perfectionism!
05:41- Definition of Perfectionism
05:54- 3 Kinds of Perfectionism
06:10- Self Oriented/Socially Prescribed/Other Oriented
07:50- Nuance is helpful to differentiate
08:17- Inability to release control
08:56- Hannah's Hot Take
09:30- Image we want, we project on others
10:26- Society Gives Us Sense of Perfection
11:45- Perfectionism is mix of Nature & Nurture
12:38- What of the 3 Kind's Is Hannah's Hot Take?
12:51- Socially Prescribed
14:14- Roland's Hot Take
15:45- Never-ending Feedback Loop
16:02- Perfectionism Breeds Failure
17:02- Imperfect is learning
18:38- The HOW is important
19:30- Perfectionism Erodes Society
20:50- Checking & Re-Checking
21:08- Chronic Procrastination
22:40- Research Attacks the Pod
23:18- Swap Perfect for Done
23:59- Good Enough Reps
26:07- Schedule Rest
27:06- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion
27:15- Behind the Couch (Roland)
27:34- Dishes as a Good Enough Rep
29:29- Goal of an Aha! Moment
29:45- Using Obligation/Contract Verbiage to Challenge
31:04- Take Back Control
32:13- Behind the Couch (Hannah)
32:25- Overwhelmed Achiever Overlap
32:55- Empowerment & Reinvention
34:21- Self-Imposed High
35:04- Inner Child Work
35:18- CBT
37:06- Safe with Emotions
38:35- Under the Cushion (Roland)
38:45- Grades Were Important (GT/AP Kid)
40:24- Challenged Perfectionism
42:07- Would Not Classify Perfectionism Out loud
42:50- We're Frenemies!
42:55- Under the Cushion (Hannah)
43:36- Grew Up Thinking of Failure
43:58- Perfectionism & Imposter Syndrome
44:33- Other Oriented
46:08- Unfairness of Expectations
48:18- Not Assigning the Emotional Piece
50:28- Other Oriented Feels Helpless
50:38- Outro
*THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICSENED PROFESSIONAL*
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25 July 2025
This Episode is certainly the fairest of them all! Hannah and Roland sit down to discuss Narcissism. Narcissism is commonly referred to as a personality trait characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And, surprise! Hannah and Roland have the same Hot Take! Whether it's identifying the gaslighting, demystifying the buzzwords, or beating a tiktoker over the head with the DSM, put down the poison apple and pay attention. Call it vain, maybe even call it arrogant, but we KNOW you'll want to hear this.
00:00- Opening
00:17- Legal Disclosure
00:47- Personal Intro (Hannah)
00:58- Personal Intro (Roland)
01:13- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift
01:23- Roland's Swiftie Song
01:37- Roland's Explanation
02:45- Verbiage is Important; no wasted time
04:28- Compartmentalization
04:44- Hannah's Swiftie Song
05:32- Hannah's Explanation
06:08- Working through monotony
07:13- Hopeful in the Mud
07:16- Hot Take Intro
07:23- Narcissism
07:31- Trigger Warning
08:35- Narcissist Label Can Only Be Used by Mental Health Professional
10:00- Hannah & Roland Have the same Hot Take!
10:36- No Normalizing Narcissism
12:21- Narcissism is not a giant spectrum
12:54- Narcissistic Personality Disorder/DSM Diagnosis
14:13- Frequency is Important to Notice
15:01- Selfishness/Arrogance is Conflated to Narcissism
15:45- Grandiosity is the keyword
16:40- Narcissism Buzzwords
17:54- Maladaptive, not just attention seeking
19:29- Need to be seen vs. Who Should See Me?
20:51- Manipulation
21:05- Gaslighting
23:29- Gaslighting is always pointed
24:57- Psychological Dominance
26:38- Again, NPD Only Be Used By Mental Health Professionals!
27:26- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion
27:31- Behind the Couch (Hannah)
28:30- Psychoeducation Soapbox; Add Tendencies After
30:03- Compassion & Empathy
31:05- Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
32:45- Behind the Couch (Roland)
33:15- Comorbidities & Differentials
34:04- Covert NPD or BPD?!
35:18- Therapy Wise- Confrontation is good
37:24- Under the Cushion (Hannah)
38:01- Gray Rocking
39:57- Better to Regulate Self than Fuel Fire
40:13- Under the Cushion (Roland)
40:26- Quiet Undertaking
41:24- Remove Self Before Falling Prey
42:40- Code Speech
43:35- Duty to Report Only Caveat
43:51- Outro
**This podcast does not serve as Mental Health Therapy with a Licensed Professional. This podcast is for educational purposes only. If topics from the podcast resonate with you, we recommend consulting a mental health provider for tailored support.
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11 July 2025
Join Hannah and Roland—along with special guest Megan Anderson—as they explore the world and uncover the mental health benefits of travel. From reigniting creativity to finding your environmental reset, discover how immersion sparks personal growth. This journey is packed with insights. Buckle up—new horizons await, and you won’t want to miss it.
00:00- Opening
00:14- Legal Disclosure
00:43- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift
00:53- Roland's Swiftie Song
01:27- Roland's Explanation
03:14- Hannah's Swiftie Song
03:35- Hannah's Explanation
07:10- Uh-oh, Reality Therapy Roland Showed Up
10:08- Hot Take Intro
10:15- Travel & Mental Health!
10:28- Guest Megan Anderson Speaks!
11:13- Travel is Self Care & Prevents Burnout
12:19- 45 COUNTRIES?! 5 CONTINENTS?!
16:18- Megan's Hot Take
16:55- Travel is a Source to Reignite Creativity
18:45- Travel is a Step Back & Peace
20:08- Roland's Hot Take
20:45- Environmental Reset is Important to Re-Center
22:44- Megan's Travel Story
23:43- Megan's Travel Quote
25:45- Travel Became Growth
25:58- Hannah's Hot Take
28:40- Being Immersed is Key
29:35- Uncomfortable with the Comfortable
30:25- Similarly on Smaller Scales is ALSO important
33:21- Being Present & Safe
36:15- Intention is the Anchor
40:20- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion
40:28- Behind the Couch (Roland)
42:33- Ask Where Client's Have Always Wanted to Go?
43:33- Always Ask Within Means
44:19- Behind the Couch (Hannah)
45:19- Discuss skills alongside travel stories
47:18- Values & Problem Solving & Curiosity
49:45- Under the Cushion (Roland)
50:28- First Vacation Ever? 17 yrs old!
52:08- True Experience of Travel (Mind Blowing)
53:06- Creative Reset & Gob smacked Feeling
53:51- Under the Cushion (Hannah)
54:00- 2 years old was first flight~
54:30- Mystery Rides!
56:29- Spring Breaks All Over
58:44- Broaden Tools through other cultures
01:01:47- Outro
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27 June 2025
I swear he's all panic, and definitely no disco. Get your straighteners, cheap CVS black hair dye, and be ready for Warped Tour. Roland Scheppske is bringing the heat this week on You Seem Fine Podcast with his turn in the hot seat. You may need to flip your bangs some or let out a scream while Roland talks about grief in day-to-day life, or the idea of a more holistic approach to mental health that he dubs as full body. In fact, be ready for a full rant on what this would look like if all medical, mental, and health professions just shared a little more knowledge with one another.
00:00- Opening
00:18- Legal Disclosure
00:47- I Don't Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift
00:58- Hannah's Swiftie Song
01:20- Hannah's Explanation
03:35- Roland's Swiftie Song
03:57- Roland's Explanation
05:50- Hot Seat Intro
06:12- What's New?!
06:28- First Acceptance Speech!
07:11- New Weekly Blog!
08:00- Practice Update
09:20- Counselor, how? When?
09:45- PTSD Veterans
10:55- Art School instead?!
12:12- Hannah & Roland have history~
14:15- Hardest thing learned as a therapist
17:20- Comradery in Dual Relationships w/ Boundaries
19:45- Boundaries & Ethics
22:00- No Compromise; Be open & talk
23:00- Roland as a Client
24:10- Nurture can be Damaging
25:35- Vulnerability
29:00- Hot Take #1
29:28- Grief is any loss
30:12- Grief is Complex
32:45- Small Griefs are Impactful
35:40- Acknowledgement & Acceptance
37:35- Hot Take #2
39:00- Full Body Experience
39:40- Mainstream & Cross Specialties
42:00- Herbalism, Massage, Acupuncture
44:10- Limited Knowledge
48:15- Medical Community & Resources
49:12- Changes in School Curriculum
53:26- Changes in best practice
53:50- INNER CHILD?! HANNAH WHY!?
55:39- The Body here in the present is most important
58:38- Outro
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13 June 2025
Imposter Syndrome? You mean that thing that everyone experiences where we think we're not good enough? Where we think we aren't doing the things we're supposed to be doing despite evidence to the contrary? You mean a Millennials biggest enemy? Yes, that Imposter Syndrome. Or, in other words, the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills. Join Hannah and Roland alongside today's special guest, Sydney Smedley, LPC as they discuss the in's and out's of what it's like to battle against OR use to your advantage all parts of the imposter.
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30 May 2025
Carmen Sandiego, who? She's got nothing on Hannah Shahabi and all the stamps in her passport! The podcast turns up the heat and has our resident messy millennial in the hot seat not only to get some further insight in who she is and how she got here, but also some deeper and more personal hot takes that aren't part of our regularly scheduled program. Whether it's Hannah's niche love of working with the Overwhelmed Achiever, her take on Emotional Intelligence vs. Maturity, or perhaps one you all can imagine make's Roland bounce in his seat a little: the chronic nature of societal trauma---it's time to TRULY get to know Hannah Shahabi, LPC.
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