You Seem Fine Podcast

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Podcast by Hannah Shahabi and Roland Scheppske

You Seem Fine Podcast

Hannah Shahabi, LPC and Roland Scheppske, LPC are two millennial therapists living in Virginia. Hannah and Roland have often found themselves having lengthy conversations with one another and developing hot takes about different therapy topics. It was in these discussions that the two of them realized a lot of ways that they mentally envisioned these aspects, were through the specific lens of a millennial (i.e. those born between the years of 1981-1996). With the fun spin these life experiences give to their hot takes, both Hannah and Roland decided that being able to express these thoughts and appeal to others, who often find themselves in a “I’m fine, this is fine” mentality, would not only be fun, but also beneficial. Specifically, for listeners to be inspired to seek out and achieve betterment in their own therapy journey. The You Seem Fine podcast provides an inside look on how Hannah and Roland conduct therapy around that topic. as well as how they handle that personally in a segment called “Behind the Couch and Under the Cushion”. As a fun bonus, Hannah and Roland lean into their Swiftie side by sharing their Taylor Swift lyric of the week at the start of each episode during the “I Don’t Need Therapy, I Have Taylor Swift” segment. *THIS PODCAST IS NOT A SUPPLEMENT OR REPLACEMENT FOR THERAPY CONDUCTED WITH A LICENSED PROFESSIONAL.*

Latest episodes

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11 January 2026

Who is the Overwhelmed Achiever?

00:00- Opening 00:17- Legal Disclosure 00:47- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:58- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:13- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift 01:26- Hannah's Swiftie Song 01:44- Hannah's Explanation 02:27- Roland's Swiftie Song 02:49- Roland's Explanation 04:49- Hot Take Intro 04:56- Spotlight! Overwhelmed Achiever 05:14- What & Who is it?! 06:08- Response to experiences 06:44- Search for balance 07:11- High Functioning / Over Achiever inspired 08:21- Gave nuance between perfectionism 09:32- Busy but with what? 10:00- Reactions to disordered society 11:06- Nervous System & Dysregulation 11:42- Imposter syndrome 13:22- Differences in Burnout 14:24- Intensity & Experience 15:08- Reaches into personal life, too 16:34- Focus on the wins 17:02- Doesn't permeate across all ages 18:18- Teens w/ Anxiety or Complex Trauma 19:15- How to assess it 20:02- Body Work / Somatic Work 20:48- Using Masks as Tells 21:18- Emotional Energy Cost 22:08- Mind/Body Connection 23:27- Progressive Muscle Relaxation or Body Scans 23:57- Internal Family Systems (Lite) 24:54- Miracle Question 25:36- Modeling for the Clients 27:18- Attachment Styles 28:24- Therapy, therapy, therapy! Go! 29:08- Journaling Prompts 30:00- How to define Overwhelm 31:19- Broaden lens 32:26- Using all your senses for clarity 32:54- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 33:02- Behind the Couch (Roland) 33:44- What does a "pause" look like? 34:11- Permission to stop 35:10- "I've done enough" 35:39- Recognition of success 36:24- Delayed Independence can be similar 37:22- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 37:40- Emphasis to imposter syndrome 38:22- Challenge & Re-write narratives 38:40- Start with CBT 39:38- Modeling the pause 41:16- Under the Cushion (Roland) 41:41- Intention is everything 42:09- Fail at it, so go harder 42:31- Burnout & Imposter Syndrome 43:08- Learned to take the pause 44:08- Personality tendencies 45:24- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 45:28- Not an Overwhelmed Achiever! 45:35- Moreso High Functioning Anxiety 45:50- Perfectionism Core 46:07- Achievements are never enough 47:10- Outro

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26 December 2025

Her Sister Was a Witch!

00:00- Opening 00:18- Legal Disclosure 00:46- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:58- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:14- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift 01:24- Roland's Swiftie Song 01:35- Roland's Explanation 02:54- Hannah's Swiftie Song 03:19- Hannah's Explanation 05:10- Hot Take Intro 05:17- Guest Star: Dr. Monica Band! 06:10- Who even is a good judge of a hot take? 06:57- Pathologizing Societal/Cultural Effects as Mental Health Issues 08:03- Hannah agrees! 08:27- Internalizing Experiences to say something is wrong 09:42- Nuance is important 10:08- Diagnoses can be important for clarity 11:24- Post-Traumatic Growth 12:13- Opposites of spectrums; ignoring the middle/gray 12:37- The need to be normal 13:35- Diagnoses gives structure 15:04- Being othered; feeling of not-normal 16:27- "Out of bodied" 17:01- Adaptive Response 17:53- TikTok Diagnosing 18:46- Knowledge, Education, & Exploration 20:18- Bias Confirmation 21:11- Challenge Perspective 22:44- "Emotions are text messages" 24:07- Excuse of symptomology; a crutch 25:06- Internalized Stigma 26:11- Anxious or Overdoing it? 27:11- Mulch making it grow 28:15- Sit in feelings, call it out, blame or guilt? 29:24- Resiliency building 31:18- Empower through trauma? 32:22- Who benefits from pathologizing? 33:23- Critically question biases 34:06- Who's voice is imposing diagnosis? 35:26- Power of community 36:08- Lack of supports 36:42- Instant gratification society 37:51- Ultimate Marshmallow Test! 38:37- Thank you Monica! 39:16- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 39:28- Behind the Couch (Roland) 40:07- Sit in the mulch; deconstruct 40:47- Getting away from pathologizing identity 40:51- Queer identities 41:13- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 41:28- Separating criteria 42:30- Impact & Role of symptoms/diagnosis 43:06- De-stigmatizing & Awareness 44:11- Identifying missing needs 44:28- Under the Cushion (Roland) 44:57- "It's just my..." 45:23- Challenging stimulation 45:51- Be in your body more 46:19- Throwing away the crutch 47:29- "What do I even do with this?" 49:02- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 49:21- Validated by diagnoses & hindered 50:06- Undiagnosed can create damage 50:42- Audit of your life 51:42- Fulfillment needs 52:35- This or that? 53:00- Normalize NOT pathologizing 53:27- Outro

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12 December 2025

What is the Playlist Protocol?

Spotlight Episode: How music can help us make meaning, move through memory, and build emotional connection. What happens when a song isn’t just a song — but a way to understand yourself more deeply? In this spotlight episode, Roland takes listeners inside The Playlist Protocol™, a therapeutic tool he developed that uses music as a bridge between memory, emotion, and healing. We explore how playlists can become emotional maps: a way to track your history, honor your growth, and create rituals of reflection. Whether it’s a breakup anthem that got you through a dark season, a song that grounds you in identity, or a melody that unlocks joy you thought you’d lost — music holds stories we sometimes can’t put into words. This episode invites you to consider how your own playlists might reveal your resilience, your relationships, and the parts of yourself you’re still learning to love. Because sometimes the most powerful therapy happens between verses.

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28 November 2025

So You Think You Can Advocate?

00:00- Opening 00:12- Legal Disclosure 00:42- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:53- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:08- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift 01:19- Hannah's Swiftie Song 01:44- Hannah's Explanation 04:09- Roland's Swiftie Song 04:36- Roland's Explanation 06:09- Hot Take Intro 06:21- Guest Star: Emma Shahabi! 06:49- "Do Better!" Hot take 07:40- Getting Involved 08:11- Everyone in Agreement 09:02- Anyone Can Get into Activism 09:38- Biggest Obstacles 10:27- Levels in Advocacy 11:23- "I'm not political" 12:12- Reflect on Position in Society 12:33- Pro-bono work & Marginalized Communities 13:08- All skills can be used to get involved 13:46- Intersectionality is Political 14:13- Politics is Value Based 15:06- No Values? No interest 16:11- Recognizing the Connection 17:00- Romanticization of Advocacy 17:31- "We'll all be holding hands" 18:16- Accountability 19:37- White Privilege & Intersectionality 20:19- Recognizing What You Don't Know 21:02- Social Media Usage 22:21- Geographical/Regional Cultures 24:13- What got Emma aware & started? 26:06- Fire Sign Coded! 26:21- Self Advocacy 27:22- Confidence in Bravery & Boundaries 28:02- Is it worth it? 28:41- Confrontation isn't always Conflict 29:12- Bringing it up is a win 29:56- Cultural Similarities 30:36- Connection is Key 31:01- Little Wins Can Equal a Big Win 31:28- How to survive? 33:00- Know What You CAN Give 33:39- Bring a buddy! 34:35- Society is Disordered 35:31- Activism a form of Therapy 36:50- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 37:02- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 37:06- Therapy is one of the greatest forms of advocacy 37:55- Boundary Setting is Advocacy 38:33- Systemic Global Advocacy Conversations 39:02- Shame & Guilt 39:38- Social Media & News 40:28- Behind the Couch (Roland) 40:44- All levels of advocacy are necessary 42:03- Community & Advocacy 43:35- Self-Advocacy is Step 1 44:41- Self-awareness in what you can do 44:52- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 45:17- Advocacy can start within the family 46:06- Navigating & Advocating for non-whiteness 46:28- Medical Advocating; Women's Healthcare 47:23- Foundational Advocacy 48:07- Marginalized Groups 49:01- Empowering people is advocacy 50:26- Use of language can be advocacy 51:58- Systemic advocacy was delayed 52:44- Under the Cushion (Roland) 52:52- Recognizing Whiteness 53:27- Curated Interactions 53:52- Understanding Microaggressions 54:10- Doubled Down on Self-Advocacy/Speak your mind 54:41- Always follow-up 55:16- Work Advocacy / Queer Education 55:50- Outro

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14 November 2025

You is Kind. You is Smart. You is Important.

00:00- Opening 00:19- Legal Disclosure 00:46- Personal Intro (Hannah) 00:58- Personal Intro (Roland) 01:13- I Don't Need Therapy, I have Taylor Swift 01:23- Roland's Swiftie Song 01:39- Roland's Explanation 04:16- Hannah's Swiftie Song 04:31- Hannah's Explanation 08:16- Hot Take Intro 08:30- You Have To Love Yourself Before You Can Love Others 08:58- Doesn't Discount Love for Others If You Don't Love Yourself 09:52- Phrase Doesn't Provide Useful Information/Growth 10:37- Statement should be re-worded 11:38- Duality of Love of Self/Others 12:15- Self Love is a Journey/Commitment 13:35- Authenticity 14:25- Meaning of Love to the Individual 15:37- Parallel vs Intertwined 16:15: Who's the Judge?! 17:07- Focus on outside input for self 18:25- Again, who's the judge? 18:45- Learning Love through Family/Kids from School 19:37- Putting Yourself First 21:18- Boundaries are Inherently Love for Self\ 22:48- Am I the problem? 25:19- Systemic Issues in Love 26:24- Lessons on Self Love 29:04- First & Last Person You Interact With 30:00- Internal Dialogues 32:02- Discount Feelings 33:46- Healthy Relationship 35:33- How to pour your cup while also filling it 37:40- Have fun with romanticization 39:34- Behind the Couch & Under the Cushion 39:40- Behind the Couch (Hannah) 40:37- Identity Development 41:14- Unromantic Story 41:45- Boundaries are Hard 42:40- Therapy is a form of Self Love 43:54- Having Intention is a form of Self Love 44:10- Behind the Couch (Roland) 44:54- Pillars of Self Care 46:22- Reflection Work & Pauses 47:37- It's like courting/dating yourself 49:05- Spotlighting yourself 50:02- Under the Cushion (Roland) 50:18- Self Love is Difficult 50:46- Love can look like many things 51:21- You Can Take Your Time 52:14- Under the Cushion (Hannah) 52:33- Questioning "Good Enough" 53:22- Commitment to the process 54:28- Way You Talk to Yourself 55:00- Hyper independent vs. Self-Love 56:17- Outro

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31 October 2025

I've Got a Blank Slate, baby, and I'll Write Your Name

Hot Take: Self-disclosure is necessary and therapeutically beneficial in the therapy room. This week, Roland and Hannah are joined by psychologist Dr. Chloe Goldbach for a candid conversation on one of the most debated topics in the therapy world: therapist self-disclosure. Should clinicians be a “blank slate”? Or does sharing parts of ourselves actually make the therapeutic relationship stronger? Together, they explore how self-disclosure can foster trust, model vulnerability, and create more authentic connections — especially in communities where shared experience matters. From challenging the rigid “never self-disclose” lessons taught in grad school to unpacking how culture, identity, and power shape disclosure, this conversation blends clinical insight with real-world nuance. Dr. Goldbach brings a feminist therapy lens to the table, emphasizing how therapist humanity isn’t a flaw — it’s a strength. Whether you’re a clinician rethinking your stance or someone curious about what happens behind the therapy room door, this episode invites you to consider how showing up as yourself can be a radical act of care. https://lgbtcounselingdmv.com/dr-chlo%C3%AB-goldbach%2C-ph-d https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/chloe-goldbach-arlington-va/1317255 https://www.youtube.com/c/TheChloeConnection (Also on IG!) https://www.amazon.com/Counseling-Gender-Expansive-World-Resources-Therapeutic-ebook/dp/B0BJ172NDN

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